It’s date night again. Where are you going to go? What will you talk about? What happened that day at work? What happens the next day? The same old thing?
Let me offer a fun suggestion. Learn the Love Language of your partner. Love Languages are the way in which someone understands and absorbs love. Gary Chapman wrote about five different Love Language: Words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. For example, if quality time is your Love Language, you feel loved when your partner spends time with you going out somewhere or even just sitting on the couch.
More than just a casual date night once every week or so, understanding a Love Language allows you to learn more about your partner and how to honor him or her.
Often people find themselves frustrated that they aren’t connecting or that they aren’t loved. Gary Chapman explains that love can be kinda like a car. When someone communicates in your Love Language, your gas tank gets full. Visa Vera, when you have not experienced your love language, you feel empty.
Try out this quiz and find your love language.
Maybe you’ve felt your relationship has hit rock bottom or there is no love left. Give this book a try. It’s really easy and fun to read. It provides tips on how to respond to each love language. Create a simple a practice of participating in each other’s love language and revolutionize your relationship.
It’s a great way to explore each other, whether you’ve known someone for one month to ten years. Try it out on your next date night and make a fun game out of it. You won’t be disappointed by the results.
Sara Hulan, MA, Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Associate IMF #97806,