Let me tell you, lots of people are undecided about it. Maybe you don't know what therapy has to offer--or maybe you're concerned that once it begins, will it ever end? Maybe it just doesn’t make sense, what do you even do in therapy, isn’t it just talking?
Let me just quell a few of these concerns...
1. Therapy ends when you decide therapy ends.
You should never be afraid to end therapy...when you're feeling that it's time. In fact, it is very exciting for me when someone tells me they are ready to end therapy. It means I have done my job successfully. Set up a check-in every month to see how the process is going. If you feel that you aren’t moving forward anymore, then let’s figure it out. You are the decider of when therapy begins and when it ends. And the door's always open if you feel the need to come back.
2. So what does therapy have to offer?
I can offer a number of considerations, always depending upon what you are looking for:
- I’m an impartial listener. I will hear your story without bias. I LISTEN. How many people in your life just listen? I’m not listening with the intention of giving you my opinion. I just listen and together we hear what you are saying.
- I offer some life skills to help you deal with emotions when they feel overwhelming--like how to manage depression or anxiety or even just anger and sadness when they enter the story.
- I offer art therapy as a creative outlet and a different way to explore what's going on.
- We can explore mindfulness and what that means in your life.
- I also just get to be a support so you are not alone. That’s right. You do not have to do it alone.
3. The plain truth is that therapy is what you make it.
I am here to serve your needs. As an impartial listener, I get to hear the words you say and develop a thicker story and meaning with you. Together, we find the deeper voice and the resolution you are looking for. You have the answers. I just get to be a witness to your authentic truth.
Therapy is a place to explore your story. Yes, we talk. Unlike the movies, I do more than just ask “and how did that make you feel?”
It is a place to just be you. How many places in the world do you get to do that?
In my practice, you get to choose if we do traditional talk therapy or if we explore more creative avenues. The best thing to do is just give me a call and we can figure out if you’d like to come see me.
"Take a quick break! Take a breath!" I tell myself. It feels like it's already been a long day that will never end. I feel totally drained. "I'll just check Facebook really fast," I think. All of a sudden, thirty minutes is gone. Guess what? I don't feel any better and I'm not rested. I'm still just as drained as I was thirty minutes before! Oh, and by the way, I'm still scrolling through Facebook!
The biggest time wasters--Facebook, Netflix or whatever it may be--drain my motivation to do almost anything. I don't feel better having scrolled through page after page of, well, nothing. Yet, somehow, I go back to it all the time. Like so many others around me, I'm staring at a hand-held technology trap, moving my thumbs at blinding speed across a digital screen. Why?
This last week, I decided to change this pattern. Instead of turning to Facebook for my breaks, I turned to my practice of mindfulness. Granted, I did not totally cut out Facebook, but instead of instantly turning there, I paused, caught myself, and practiced mindfulness. Facebook will always be there.
Buzzfeed created this really cool blog post with all these visual animations designed to help practice focusing on your breath! It can be challenging to just breath and count. At first, I found it difficult to hone in on an abstract thing, like breath, and not let my mind wander! These animations make it easier. It is fun to watch the ball wander up as I inhale and down as I exhale. Eventually, I could just imagine the ball as I practice. Then, it became even easier to focus without the animations! Before I knew it, I could practice mindful breath no matter where I was. It's as if I'd turned the table on digital brain traps!
I love keeping this blog post somewhere always accessible (like on my phone), which also really helps with mindfulness. I recommend giving it a try for a few minutes a day. And see if you can try practicing mindful breath for 30 seconds to a minute every day for 30 days! Let me know how it goes!
Sara Hulan, MA, Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Associate IMF #97806,